So, how about that supermoon, eh? I know it was over hyped and your news feed was jammed with blurry cell phone photos of glowing white orbs that may or may not have been the moon. I know many of you think it was silly or overrated or not worth your time. I didn't check out Sunday's lunar eclipse because Facebook told me to, because I subscribe to the mystical powers of blood moons, or even because it was an event that had not occurred in thirty-some years. I dragged my beach chair into the front yard and looked skyward because the eclipse was genuinely neat. Maybe, in this era of YOLO and extreme everything, "neat" is a quaint ideal that no longer has much cachet, but, man, sometimes the simplest joys are where it's at.
I found the the eclipse truly awe-some. Maybe I was feeling a bit philosophical Sunday night because I had a rough day at work and Mother Nature reminded me there is so much more to my universe than unreliable employees or selling books to angry old women. Maybe I was worn down by the failings of my fantasy football team. Or maybe the eclipse was actually exciting. I forgot that nature is actually exciting. I sometimes don't look up from my phone or television or book long enough to appreciate nature's beauty. Even the clouds that moved in, threatening to derail the show, were amazing to see. I remembered to not be disappointed in what I might not see, but to appreciate what I could. And there was much to appreciate. Whether you believe in God or Science or both, I think you could see the magic in the moon marching across the night sky. Watching the sky, I felt the same way I do standing in the ocean-tiny, admiring the vastness laid out before me. This weekend at the shore, with the surf non-negotiable and the wind-driven sand trying to peel flesh from leg, I couldn't help but marvel at the enormity and power of the sea. Similarly, Sunday, watching the moon succumb to the shadow, I let my mind wander. Thoughts, ranging from the serious to the silly, drifted by like the clouds drifting through the air. I thought of my late father, eternity, space travel, werewolves, the new Star Wars movie and gentle painter Bob Ross (Let's give this little cloud a friend, shall we?).
As crickets' songs and the far off honks of traveling geese served as nature's soundtrack to the moon's show, I was reminded how rarely there is stillness and quiet in my life, inside my head or out. We are always on the go; work or play, we stuff our lives with activity. At work, crappy music, the bark of blenders and coffee grinders, and customers' bleats ring in the ears. At home, sounds of music or a ball game or a jumping/laughing/shouting six year old fill the air. Except when I try to meditate or write, both of which I do all too infrequently, the house is buzzing. It felt so good to feel the gentle breeze, listen to the nature songs and watch the eclipse through my binoculars. Then after about an hour or so, much like saying a word over and over again until it becomes unrecognizable, the magic ended and the moment was lost. But the lesson remains: Make time to enjoy the universe's grandeur. Getting lost in it might just help you find yourself.
Tuesday, September 29, 2015
Friday, September 25, 2015
Vapid Vapers Voraciously Vaping
I am normally easygoing when it comes to people's hobbies. After all, we all geek out about different things. You play Dungeons and Dragons, I play fantasy football. You like to cook, I like to eat. You indulge in Guatemalan Midget Porn, I watch the news. Same, but different. Who am I to say what's right? There are plenty of things I don't enjoy or "get" that I acknowledge are important to others: craft beer, Bronies, trying to make Quidditch an Olympic sport. (Though, that last one is kinda ridiculous, right? I love Star Wars, but you don't see me lobbying to race The Kessel Run in Rio in 2016.) However, at the risk of upsetting the Hipster Army and getting beaten with fedoras and tins of artisanal moustache wax, I do have one hobby targeted squarely in my sights: Vaping. I'm like a Victorian Englishwoman, all these vapers vaping their vapors are giving me the vapours.
Look, if you are using e-cigs as a transition to quit tobacco altogether, then I give you a pass; I don't consider you among this scourge upon humanity. But if you picked up this adult pacifier, as my friend Elise calls it, because it's cooler than cigarettes or smells better then I simply don't understand you. If you are a smoker, be a smoker. Embrace it in all its nasty, stinking, yellow finger-tipped glory. Wear that stale tobacco, we-just-spent-three-hours-in-a-bowling-alley, I-live-in-a-giant-ashtray stench like a badge. Own it. Take your smoke breaks, rail against being herded into designated areas to do your business, enjoy your passengers wondering if your car has exhaust leaking into the cabin. Own it. Don't be swayed by the shiny new technology, don't be wooed by exotic flavors. Remember, there was a time when smoking didn't require extensive accessories. Pop-pop's Zippo or Mom-mom's pleather cigarette case was all the accessory they needed; why are you being such a pretentious ass? Who needs to fool with batteries, rebuildable atomizers or vape juice? (Which, by the way, is a term that, if I knew which authority to ask, I would request be stricken from the lexicon. It sounds so oogy, like something vaguely associated with excitement below the belt.) Keep smoking stinky and electronics-free. Own it!
If you do bow to pop culture pressure and decide to vape, don't be surprised if people look at you funny. Especially if you vape in an area that is off-limits to smokers. Don't look so surprised when I ask you to not vape in my store. Just because you enjoy it when your vape retailer helps you to encounter new flavors by blowing a vapor cloud from his mouth to your face (Gross, right?) doesn't mean the rest of us want your chicory-almond-lavender blend wafting through our shared confined spaces. Nothing screams, "Hey, look at me!", quite like somebody vaping in an elevator, office or retail store. (Except maybe someone linking to his blog on Facebook begging for "likes", but I digress.) You can't browse for five minutes without a nicotine hit? Of course you can, but you don't. Instead, you'd rather coolly prowl around like you are getting over on somebody, when really you just look like a douche. If your oral fixation is so intense, may I suggest dabbling in Guatemalan Midget Porn? Working with those little guys would have to be less embarrassing than pompously puffing away on your overpriced robot cigarette.
Look, if you are using e-cigs as a transition to quit tobacco altogether, then I give you a pass; I don't consider you among this scourge upon humanity. But if you picked up this adult pacifier, as my friend Elise calls it, because it's cooler than cigarettes or smells better then I simply don't understand you. If you are a smoker, be a smoker. Embrace it in all its nasty, stinking, yellow finger-tipped glory. Wear that stale tobacco, we-just-spent-three-hours-in-a-bowling-alley, I-live-in-a-giant-ashtray stench like a badge. Own it. Take your smoke breaks, rail against being herded into designated areas to do your business, enjoy your passengers wondering if your car has exhaust leaking into the cabin. Own it. Don't be swayed by the shiny new technology, don't be wooed by exotic flavors. Remember, there was a time when smoking didn't require extensive accessories. Pop-pop's Zippo or Mom-mom's pleather cigarette case was all the accessory they needed; why are you being such a pretentious ass? Who needs to fool with batteries, rebuildable atomizers or vape juice? (Which, by the way, is a term that, if I knew which authority to ask, I would request be stricken from the lexicon. It sounds so oogy, like something vaguely associated with excitement below the belt.) Keep smoking stinky and electronics-free. Own it!
If you do bow to pop culture pressure and decide to vape, don't be surprised if people look at you funny. Especially if you vape in an area that is off-limits to smokers. Don't look so surprised when I ask you to not vape in my store. Just because you enjoy it when your vape retailer helps you to encounter new flavors by blowing a vapor cloud from his mouth to your face (Gross, right?) doesn't mean the rest of us want your chicory-almond-lavender blend wafting through our shared confined spaces. Nothing screams, "Hey, look at me!", quite like somebody vaping in an elevator, office or retail store. (Except maybe someone linking to his blog on Facebook begging for "likes", but I digress.) You can't browse for five minutes without a nicotine hit? Of course you can, but you don't. Instead, you'd rather coolly prowl around like you are getting over on somebody, when really you just look like a douche. If your oral fixation is so intense, may I suggest dabbling in Guatemalan Midget Porn? Working with those little guys would have to be less embarrassing than pompously puffing away on your overpriced robot cigarette.
Friday, September 11, 2015
In Tyler We Trust
Trust is a tricky notion. In interpersonal relationships, for example, trust is essential to success. It is an investment that must be earned. In so many other areas of our lives, however, we have to invest trust in, or at least begrudgingly hand it over, to complete strangers that we hope will earn it. If we didn't, we couldn't function or operate in a normal lifestyle. We trust that the subway driver is sober. We trust that our mechanic tightened all the lug nuts properly when he rotated our tires. We trust that the kid working the drive-thru didn't slap his Little Mac on our Big Mac before he hands us the bag through the window. If we didn't invest this trust, we would never leave the house. Or maybe you should leave your house right now! Are you sure your builder used enough nails in your roof?
For parents, doling out trust to someone else to watch over your kids can be difficult. Not that she can't skin a knee or fall off the swing when I am present (she's done both, now that I think of it), but I make keeping Grace safe my number one mission in life. Dropping your child off to spend the day with strangers (relatively speaking, as compared to family and friends) can be an astounding investment of trust for parents. No matter how well-researched and well-reasoned your thought process, you are still placing great faith in others. You think you are making the right decision, but you can't see everything that goes on at school, or camp, orday care toddler fight club. Seriously, day care providers arrested for encouraging and shooting video of kids ages 4-6 fighting each other? It's enough to drive a helicopter parent to drink. (And isn't that the whole reason we send our kids to places like camp in the first place, so we can enjoy a refreshing adult beverage in peace?)
At a glance, arrests and a little jail time seem an appropriate punishment for these day "care" providers. But are we judging these women too harshly? Surely, I can't be the only one that was told by my parents on occasion (or dozens of occasions) when fighting with my brother to, "Take it outside!" My parents couldn't have thought that we went outside to settle our dispute with chalk drawing or dandelion picking. They just wanted us out of their hair. Hell, maybe they broke out the Super 8 and secretly made black market kid fight films. We already witness our kids duking it out with their siblings, why not get a little something out of it? Fellow parents, are we outraged at these babysitters because they slaked their blood lust with the violence of children or because we didn't think of it first?
Hear me out. There are lots of reasons why it makes sense to make the whole process more transparent, to drag it out of the dark, to officially sanction toddler fight clubs. First, today's parenting experts advise us to spend our money on experiences for our children not toys, gadgets and trinkets. Talk about an experience! There is nothing like "experiencing" swallowing your own blood or putting back a dislocated finger. And, look, those kids were going to lose most of those teeth anyway. We build a whole army of baby Thoreaus learning about themselves in the proverbial "woods" long before their tenth birthdays. That kind of self-discovery is invaluable. Speaking of our money, who among us couldn't use a little more pocket change? Come on, let your entrprenuerial spirit shine. We sanction the bouts, set odds and watch the money pour in. It's really no more complex than organizing fantasy football or our March Madness pools. Now, I don't wanna brag, but if all Grace's unintentional(?) headbutts, accidental knees to the groin, and elbows to the nose over the years are any indication, I might have a contender on my hands. So, come on, let's build some tiny octagons and get this thing rolling. You can squeeze one more thing on the schedule. Dance, Scouts, Choir, Soccer, Fight Club...at least you can trust that you know what's going on. What could go wrong?
*May this post in no way discourage any of you from bringing your children to our house for a play date, Grace's birthday party, etc. My wife is quite a normal and sensible person.
For parents, doling out trust to someone else to watch over your kids can be difficult. Not that she can't skin a knee or fall off the swing when I am present (she's done both, now that I think of it), but I make keeping Grace safe my number one mission in life. Dropping your child off to spend the day with strangers (relatively speaking, as compared to family and friends) can be an astounding investment of trust for parents. No matter how well-researched and well-reasoned your thought process, you are still placing great faith in others. You think you are making the right decision, but you can't see everything that goes on at school, or camp, or
At a glance, arrests and a little jail time seem an appropriate punishment for these day "care" providers. But are we judging these women too harshly? Surely, I can't be the only one that was told by my parents on occasion (or dozens of occasions) when fighting with my brother to, "Take it outside!" My parents couldn't have thought that we went outside to settle our dispute with chalk drawing or dandelion picking. They just wanted us out of their hair. Hell, maybe they broke out the Super 8 and secretly made black market kid fight films. We already witness our kids duking it out with their siblings, why not get a little something out of it? Fellow parents, are we outraged at these babysitters because they slaked their blood lust with the violence of children or because we didn't think of it first?
Hear me out. There are lots of reasons why it makes sense to make the whole process more transparent, to drag it out of the dark, to officially sanction toddler fight clubs. First, today's parenting experts advise us to spend our money on experiences for our children not toys, gadgets and trinkets. Talk about an experience! There is nothing like "experiencing" swallowing your own blood or putting back a dislocated finger. And, look, those kids were going to lose most of those teeth anyway. We build a whole army of baby Thoreaus learning about themselves in the proverbial "woods" long before their tenth birthdays. That kind of self-discovery is invaluable. Speaking of our money, who among us couldn't use a little more pocket change? Come on, let your entrprenuerial spirit shine. We sanction the bouts, set odds and watch the money pour in. It's really no more complex than organizing fantasy football or our March Madness pools. Now, I don't wanna brag, but if all Grace's unintentional(?) headbutts, accidental knees to the groin, and elbows to the nose over the years are any indication, I might have a contender on my hands. So, come on, let's build some tiny octagons and get this thing rolling. You can squeeze one more thing on the schedule. Dance, Scouts, Choir, Soccer, Fight Club...at least you can trust that you know what's going on. What could go wrong?
*May this post in no way discourage any of you from bringing your children to our house for a play date, Grace's birthday party, etc. My wife is quite a normal and sensible person.
Tuesday, September 01, 2015
September 1st:Expanding Rosters, Shrinking Pennant Hopes
Though they have provided little evidence throughout the season they are more than a .500 ball club, the Orioles' sweep of Oakland a couple weeks ago made me think they could be starting a playoff push. No team seemed to want the second wildcard berth. If the Birds could finally put together a sustained run (and with 6 games remaining on a season-defining homestand, it seemed possible), perhaps they could hit the post-season for consecutive seasons. They put together a run, alright. A run for last place; an anti-pennant chase, if you will. Since that Oakland sweep, which now seems like some sort of mirage, the O's are 2-11. They now stand closer to last place in the division than to the second wildcard spot. Suddenly, all those cutesy hashtags seem silly and sad. #BuckleUp because we are not sure where rock bottom is, but #WeWontStop until we find it! Instead of authoring a September to remember, Baltimore is finishing a season to forget. Instead of writing about the joy of my postseason experience like last year, I'll be penning a tale of October-less woe.
So how did we get here, me sobbing over my keyboard singing the Charm City blues? I guess we should have seen it coming. Unlike the Flats down in D.C., the O's were not prohibitive favorites. Most will agree they overachieved last season. Many wondered if they could duplicate a first place finish. Even Showalter, speaking at my local minor league team's hot stove banquet, sought to temper the crowd's enthusiasm. He was cagey about the prospects for this season, seeming to know how difficult it would be, given the off-season losses, to repeat as division champs. Maybe it was coach speak or maybe it was a sliver of honesty in a giddy off-season. Even by measured expectations, though, this club has disappointed. It proves that Chef Buck is even better at making chicken salad than I previously thought. So, if not Buck, who is to blame?
I rightly praised Dan Duquette last season, yet he must shoulder a chunk of blame today. He made some great finds that worked out last year. For this team to take the next step in the evolution to contender, though, 2014 should have been built upon. I love Nick Markakis, but not bringing him back was the right move. His presence is most certainly missed, however, the Braves overpaid. Nelson Cruz is another story. Kudos to Duquette for grabbing him last year for what turned out to be a bargain at $8 million. He steadied the middle of the order and, at times, seemed to be the only guy hitting. I know he would have cost a bunch in dollars and contract years to bring him back, but I wish they had. As a DH, he could potentially produce for years beyond the extent of his contract. Worth the risk, in my opinion. You can't expect to add pieces from the scrap heap, cross your fingers, and hope it works every time. Maybe it is good scouting, but often it is simply luck when a journeyman brought in catches lightning in a bottle, turning in a Pearcien Performance over the course of an entire season. You can not rely on this method as a path to sustained success. Look at the pieces jettisoned this year alone. Snider, Cabrera, Lough, Young, De Aza, (I'm pretty sure I am forgetting a couple) were all pieces deemed useless by a team that is currently 5 games under .500.
Was Duquette handcuffed by the Angeloses? Probably. Was he purposely weakening the O's because he planned on ducking out to Toronto? Maybe. Either way, Baltimore entered their division title defense shorthanded. Having no ace, no corner outfielders of consequence and no quality designated hitter is a recipe for disaster. It puts a lot of pressure on the players that are here, who, obviously, are not absolved of culpability here. During this season-sinking stretch, the excellent bullpen back end and stellar defense have faltered at inopportune times. Adam Jones, as much as I love him, isn't a yet consistent or disciplined enough to be a true superstar. If Jones, Machado and Davis aren't hitting bombs, the offense struggles. Add in a few Cinderellas turning into pumpkins (Pearce, Gonzalez) and you get the mess currently stinking up Camden Yards. That said, there is enough talent to avoid a stretch as terrible as the last two weeks. Losing 10 of 11? Inexcusable. Obviously, there is no help coming from outside to fix this. To paraphrase Rick Pitino from his Celtic coaching days-Cal Ripken isn't walking through that door. Well, okay, except for tonight, when they are honoring The Streak, but you know what I mean.
Of course, I am writing all this hoping it is some sort of reverse jinx; that in some bizarre confluence of my whining, turning the page on the calendar, and Cal being in the house, my Birds can fix this. While writing this I saw a black and orange butterfly flitting its way about my driveway. A sign of hope, perhaps, but more likely just a sign that I have a butterfly in my driveway. Unfortunately, this season feels way more like most of those lost years during Cal's streak instead of the few glory years. But that's okay, it's almost hockey season and the Capitals never let me down, right?
So how did we get here, me sobbing over my keyboard singing the Charm City blues? I guess we should have seen it coming. Unlike the Flats down in D.C., the O's were not prohibitive favorites. Most will agree they overachieved last season. Many wondered if they could duplicate a first place finish. Even Showalter, speaking at my local minor league team's hot stove banquet, sought to temper the crowd's enthusiasm. He was cagey about the prospects for this season, seeming to know how difficult it would be, given the off-season losses, to repeat as division champs. Maybe it was coach speak or maybe it was a sliver of honesty in a giddy off-season. Even by measured expectations, though, this club has disappointed. It proves that Chef Buck is even better at making chicken salad than I previously thought. So, if not Buck, who is to blame?
I rightly praised Dan Duquette last season, yet he must shoulder a chunk of blame today. He made some great finds that worked out last year. For this team to take the next step in the evolution to contender, though, 2014 should have been built upon. I love Nick Markakis, but not bringing him back was the right move. His presence is most certainly missed, however, the Braves overpaid. Nelson Cruz is another story. Kudos to Duquette for grabbing him last year for what turned out to be a bargain at $8 million. He steadied the middle of the order and, at times, seemed to be the only guy hitting. I know he would have cost a bunch in dollars and contract years to bring him back, but I wish they had. As a DH, he could potentially produce for years beyond the extent of his contract. Worth the risk, in my opinion. You can't expect to add pieces from the scrap heap, cross your fingers, and hope it works every time. Maybe it is good scouting, but often it is simply luck when a journeyman brought in catches lightning in a bottle, turning in a Pearcien Performance over the course of an entire season. You can not rely on this method as a path to sustained success. Look at the pieces jettisoned this year alone. Snider, Cabrera, Lough, Young, De Aza, (I'm pretty sure I am forgetting a couple) were all pieces deemed useless by a team that is currently 5 games under .500.
Was Duquette handcuffed by the Angeloses? Probably. Was he purposely weakening the O's because he planned on ducking out to Toronto? Maybe. Either way, Baltimore entered their division title defense shorthanded. Having no ace, no corner outfielders of consequence and no quality designated hitter is a recipe for disaster. It puts a lot of pressure on the players that are here, who, obviously, are not absolved of culpability here. During this season-sinking stretch, the excellent bullpen back end and stellar defense have faltered at inopportune times. Adam Jones, as much as I love him, isn't a yet consistent or disciplined enough to be a true superstar. If Jones, Machado and Davis aren't hitting bombs, the offense struggles. Add in a few Cinderellas turning into pumpkins (Pearce, Gonzalez) and you get the mess currently stinking up Camden Yards. That said, there is enough talent to avoid a stretch as terrible as the last two weeks. Losing 10 of 11? Inexcusable. Obviously, there is no help coming from outside to fix this. To paraphrase Rick Pitino from his Celtic coaching days-Cal Ripken isn't walking through that door. Well, okay, except for tonight, when they are honoring The Streak, but you know what I mean.
Of course, I am writing all this hoping it is some sort of reverse jinx; that in some bizarre confluence of my whining, turning the page on the calendar, and Cal being in the house, my Birds can fix this. While writing this I saw a black and orange butterfly flitting its way about my driveway. A sign of hope, perhaps, but more likely just a sign that I have a butterfly in my driveway. Unfortunately, this season feels way more like most of those lost years during Cal's streak instead of the few glory years. But that's okay, it's almost hockey season and the Capitals never let me down, right?