It is always cool when your kid jumps out of bed in the morning merrily singing "Today is a special day!" over and over again. It's even cooler when she is excited because she is proud to be spending the day with you. The truth is she was a little more enthusiastic about today than I was. She has been counting the days for weeks. I, though, was a little nervous. For today was my debut as Kindergarten Classroom Parent Helper. It's a little like the old saying, "It's better to be thought a fool, than open your mouth and remove all doubt." It's better to be thought a bumbling dad, than show up and remove all doubt. I took solace in the fact that Grace was so excited. I sometimes forget to look at our relationship from her perspective. I'm glad she sees me as a hero; I don't see myself that way. It would be wise for parents to remember how large we loom in our kids' worldview and act accordingly. Besides, in the not-so-distant future she won't want to be seen within a six mile radius of me; I better enjoy it while I can.
You may ask why I would be nervous, after all, I helped in Pre-K class and on field trips. Well, this class has twice as many kids that I would be assisting in wrangling. And the tiny chairs. There is nary a chair in that building that will hold an ass my size. Thirdly, there is the snack time pressure. My food choices judged by thirty-two watchful eyeballs? I imagine snack time going something like this:
Carrots? Carrots? Let me get this straight. You could have brought in any food in the world, something dripping with high fructose corn syrup or covered in funfetti, and you brought us carrots?!
(Weakly): But I have Nilla Wafers, too.
Oh, don't even get me started about cookies without chips, icing or a creamy filling. You just don't get it, do you buddy? A word to the wise- a mom brought Fig Newtons in the other morning and no one has seen her since.
Then the pint-sized mob would raise their tiny pitchforks...
Snacks aside, relating to five-year-olds should be right in my wheelhouse, but you never know. I figure if I dole out a few high fives, pretend to confuse cows and giraffes, and make a well-timed timed joke about a quacking elephant I'll be golden. Kindergartners love silly humor and Corny is my middle name. I did not want Grace to feel compelled to explain away her dopey father. (Which, ultimately, she did. After some dumb joke, she sighed, looked around the table meeting each of her classmates eyes and calmly said, "It's okay. He does that. He kids around a lot.") To sum up my mission: bring a decent snack and don't embarrass Grace by being an idiot.
Then last night something magical happened. I read an article that took away all the pressure of being classroom helper. Because there is no way I could be as terrible at it as the mom who took vagina shaped cookies to her second grader's class. That's right, she baked and iced cookies to look like Hoo-has. Lady bits. The old Velvet Glove. It would not shock me if the article is a hoax, but let's for a moment assume it is true. Beyond the juvenile questions about flavor or if all the cookies are the same on the inside, I've got questions. Starting with, What the hell was she thinking? How awful must it be to be her kid? Is her name Mulva? Does she sell them by the dozen? Like on the internet? I'm, uh, asking for a friend.
Thanks, lady, you made my morning easier. With my G-rated snack in one paw and Grace's little hand in the other, I was able to confidently walk into school ready for action.
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